Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Wealth

Ep. 31: Jen Coffel

October 27, 2021 Marcy Predmore-McPhee Season 1 Episode 31
Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Wealth
Ep. 31: Jen Coffel
Show Notes Transcript

Guest Bio: 

Jen Coffel is CEO of Engaging Speakers, a successful business coach, a best-selling author with four books, and a philanthropist. She has been featured on Inc.com, ABC News, and the Chicago Tribune. Jen has been mentored by speaking icons like Jack Canfield, Nick Vujicic, and Sandra Yancey, and has spoken on stage to over 10,000 people. 

With two decades of business experience, Jen built her first 5 businesses to 6 figures each, all in under a year and all in different industries. She has now helped over a thousand entrepreneurs build their businesses with many reaching 6-figure and 7-figure revenue. In her previous career, she developed the largest team in Illinois for a billion-dollar direct sales company, personally generating over $25 million in sales and raising over $1 million in donations for non-profits. But she is most proud of founding her own international non-profit “Handing Hope” which brings comfort and smiles to children battling cancer in twelve states and three countries around the world.


Website: www.JenC360.com

Women’s Mastermind: www.TheAdmired100.com 


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Janay Harris  0:01  
You are listening to ordinary women extraordinary wealth with Marcy Predmore-McPhee. This is the show where we talk about how ordinary women achieve extraordinary wealth. We interview successful business leaders and entrepreneurs to learn about their journeys, discover what success means to them, and go over the various forms of wealth they've been able to achieve. And we'll learn all the best tips and tricks you can start applying in your own life and career. While extraordinary wealth comes in a variety of forms, we don't neglect the financial side. And it's so important for women to feel comfortable talking about money. So in this show, you'll also learn how to put your money to work. Keep your money in motion, and use your money to enjoy life today, without stealing from tomorrow. Be sure to like and subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts. And if you find this show valuable, make sure to share it with your friends and colleagues. And now your host, Marcy Predmore-McPhee, McPhee.

Marcy Predmore  0:59  
Good morning, everybody. I am just super excited to have you here today at ordinary women extraordinary wealth, I get the joy and the privilege of interviewing people who have really touched my heart, and people that Tim and I have met along the way who have really become friends who've become like minds with us. And today, I really get an interview that I've just been super excited to share because she has become a friend of ours. And as we continue to grow, she has a mind like we do. She likes to continue to grow herself. She likes to continue to push herself sometimes where it gets a little uncomfortable. So she's going to be sharing with us a little bit more about her journey. But today I get to introduce Jen kocel. Jen, welcome to ordinary women. extraordinary wealth today. 

Jen Coffel  1:57  
Thank you, Marcia. So good to be with you. 

Marcy Predmore  1:59  
You bet. So I'm going to give you just a quick little bio, everybody just so you can kind of get to know Jen, and then she's going to fill in some of the blanks on maybe what I have missed or what we would like to fill in. So Jen is the CEO of engaging speakers, a successful business coach, which she truly is a best selling author with four books, and very philanthropic she's been featured on inc.com ABC News and the Chicago Tribune. Jen has been mentored by speaking icons, such as Jack Canfield and Sandy Yancey, and has spoken on stage for up to 10,000 people with two decades of business experience. Jen built her first five businesses, not one, but five businesses all under a year, and all in different industries. She's now helped over 1000s of entrepreneurs build their businesses by reaching six and seven figure incomes. In her previous career, she developed the largest team in Illinois for a billion dollar direct sales company personally generating 25 million in sales, and raising over a million dollars in donations for nonprofits. But she's most proud of founding her own international nonprofit handing hope that just touched my heart love the name, which brings comfort and smiles to children battling cancer in 12 states and three countries around the world. So Jen has a pretty amazing background, a very strong foundation. So Jen, if you could just maybe fill in a little bit, why and how you got to what you're doing today? 

Jen Coffel  3:55  
Sure. Well, my first business, my background is in occupational therapy. So I have a degree in occupational therapy and my first business I actually taught people with disabilities how to drive. And so one of my core values is freedom. And so, and entrepreneurship is something I've found that I love, and I think I got that spirit from my father. But when I went into occupational therapy and driver's rehab, it was at a time when I was married, but trying to have kids and what we weren't able to work one through six years of infertility. And so I built that business in the midst of that, and I loved helping people get their keys to independence and loved the process of building an apparel business, and did really well on that business, built it to multiple six figures and that in less than a year and it was an awesome business and then finally got the gift of being able to be a mom. And so after trying for six years, we adopted our first little baby and that was a awesome little God story. Actually, you weren't trying to adopt, we just got this amazing opportunity to adopt this beautiful little girl was now 19. And five months into that adoption, we had the opportunity to do IVF. Now I got pregnant with twins, and then made the decision, I really need to sell this business because the adaption was a surprise, like we all of a sudden, were handed a baby like we weren't even in the process of trying to adapt. So here was this little baby in my life. And then a few months into that process, we got pregnant with twins. And I knew that, you know, this is what I've been waiting for. For all these years, I wanted to be a mom, I want to be able to stay home. And so I stopped, I sold my business, which was a really cute gift to be able to sell it. And it was very niche. And so it was, like interesting that I was given the gift of finding someone that would want to purchase it. But it's still thriving today over 20 Some years later, which is such a great feeling. And then little fast forward about a year. And here I was with a two year old, one year old twins, and I got pregnant. And then my body started working. And you know, God has a sense of humor, you know, after all those years of trying, and all those foods got to be an adoptive mom, a twin mom, a single mom, I got to have no birth, natural birth sections, I got to experience motherhood in all the ways that's possible, which is amazing. But in this whole experience of being a mom, and you know, choosing to stay home, you know, the money that I sold my practice for, I thought it was gonna be enough money to get what I thought was like just a few kids to kindergarten. But it turned out that I had four kids and I had did not anticipate really how expensive was to raise kids. And so you know, the adoptions, expensive, IVF, and expensive, all these things, and all these expenses came into my life. And so I found myself, with a three year old two year old twins, a newborn, and we were broke. And we are about $1,000 Short every month on our bills. And there was nothing to do except to put on a credit card, there was no, there was no other options. And so we were about $10,000 into this process of wow, like debt and thinking like this isn't getting better. You know, my husband was a occupational therapist at hospitals where there wasn't like opportunities for bonuses. And so I thought I really need to actually find another business like I have to do something from home because the idea of putting four little kids in daycare. And that wasn't something I wanted to do and would be very expensive and impractical. And so I actually clicked on an ad about working from home and was introduced to the network marketing model that business I had never heard of before. And so I just treated it like a traditional business, to be honest, like I just started, I picked a target market started marketing it and really just focused on that way to have a huge success in that business, and probably from the way that I approached it. And in that experience. So if you get a lot of personal development, like it's probably the best personal development, you know, business model that you can be in. And also like, I got to meet a lot of people and help them build businesses. And I discovered my love for coaching and building businesses and teaching people how to build business. Because I was operating more from a traditional mindset around business with this network marketing company, it was easy for me to like transition into business coaching, helping people with traditional businesses, like grow their businesses, so So that's that's kind of what led me into starting a business coaching practice, because of the love that I had for coaching and the just the gifts I saw that, you know, came out of that in me to help people. And then in the process of all of that, I noticed how much speaking was like a tool that I use in all those businesses like my initial business as a driver rehab, and network marketing. And then as a business coach, like how do I grew up paying clients as author speaking and speaking as the fastest path, I think that any entrepreneur can control. And so I beginning began being very intentional about learning how to really get good at that because at the beginning, I was terrible. I was doing it in front of like audiences, you know, like, bigger audiences. I remember one time I put somebody to sleep like in the front row has been way too informational. You know, it was like, great information, but it was not very engaging. Yes. And so I thought, thank God, he's in the front row, nobody notices he's asleep because he was out. And then sure enough, few minutes later, he started snoring. Everybody knew that he was sleeping. Really embarrassing. And that was that that moment I was like, I better really learn how to like do this well, because I don't want to have this experience again. And so then that kind of got me down the track of really unpacking and learning like how do you speak effectively because I know a lot of entrepreneurs out there right now and that's my passion, you know, is helping entrepreneurs generate leads, make sales, grow their business be able to do what they were created for. Do it well. And so then I started, like really learning a lot about how to do that. Wow. And it's been super fun. So that actually led me into engaging speakers and developing a speaker program and all of that, because of the success I've had. So you know, the history of like building five businesses to six figures, or multiple six or seven figures less than 12 months is honestly like foundationally, from the spirit of entrepreneurship, like really understanding the entrepreneurial model, especially for solo entrepreneurs or small business owners. Yeah. And then also like incorporating, speaking in really helping to, like have that power to understand like, they can be in control of their business and their growth, through speaking. So yeah, so that's kind of like a like a really big explanation for like the bio but, but that's kind of how the transitions happen, why I've ended up with so many businesses. And I got, I got, I started the nonprofit, I guess, because I do dimensioned that, and that's really my heartbeat. I unfortunately, I lost my mom and my dad and my best friend Alta cancer, and they all died in a year and a half time, and they're all young. They all got on stage cancer, my dad had long my mom had patriotic, and my best friend had brain cancer. And it all like just they were all working full time, all healthy. And then all of a sudden, they were just like, all of them are gone like year and a half. And they all loved kids. And cancer is a big disease, you know, for adults, but you know, bigger for children. And so this idea of like, just giving kids some confidence smile by helping them to, you know, have a treat that's not full of sugar. And that tastes good, is the idea behind our little lollipop tree project that we're doing, we have a lot more going on with that profit right now. But in terms of expanding the mission, but the simple act of like just giving some kids like a treat, you know how you are as a parent wanting to give your kids a treat when they don't feel good. Imagine if your child like cancer, and you're being told no sugar, you know how hard that is, and you understand them. So to give them a fun treat that tastes what it really feels like. And it is candy that is sweetened from a birch tree, not like artificial sweeteners or things like that are bad for them. It's really been fun. So that's my love project.

Marcy Predmore  12:07  
That is what what a what an amazing, heartfelt project. Just even just the story of your parents and your best friend. I mean, so many of us have been touched, unfortunately, by the disease, but children sometimes they still need to live a life, they still need to, like you said enjoy the every days of life, whether it be you know, a special treat, but to just create that for them. What an amazing handing Hope Foundation. I just I just love that. That's just awesome. And we might chat about that a little bit down the road. But as we start today, I like to begin with, first of all finding out about you, which we did, and I'm so thankful that you were able to share that. But I like to talk about really entrepreneurial entrepreneurship, which is really your industry. It's what you do. It's how you help propel people. But there's always a couple of questions that have intrigued me with all of the people that I meet. And the first question is a broad question. But it's a question that I like to hear people's response. What does wealth mean to you?

Jen Coffel  13:27  
To me, it's being able to be as generous as I desire, with my time, my money and my resources. To me, that is true wealth. I

Marcy Predmore  13:38  
love that and, and just even the generosity, like you said to mine is has freedom in there. But I love the generosity piece too. But having the freedom to give generously is is pretty awesome. Yeah, that's great. And then the second question, and again, you've been extremely exceedingly successful in many avenues. But what does success truly mean to you?

Jen Coffel  14:06  
Success means to me to live an admired life that ties to what we just said. And that to me and admire life is one where you can be as generous as you want with your time, your money and your resources. And for me, they both mean, you know, they're like, so energy interconnected. I was very blessed to my dad, one of the best lessons I think, that I got from my father and his life was his spirit of generosity. And he always in he had an entrepreneurial spirit. He worked in the Chicago Transit Authority and like fixing buses for 20 Some years and he retired really young, like in his early 40s. And he started a limousine business and so I got to watch him build like a really successful fleet and you know, that business for 37 years. He did a great job with it. But the thing that I learned from him was You know, this idea of just whenever he was a group of people or with me or anyone that for that matter friend who was the first person put his hand in his pocket, it wasn't like a hesitation, now you've ever gonna pay for lunch or something that he was just always so free. Yeah. And he didn't have this emotional attachment to money, like, I got to watch him be generous. It wasn't like acts of generosity just was generous. And it came from that spirit. And so I got to witness that and watch him not have this like, really like, negative emotional connection to money. He was always like, money is just a tool, and you just use it to, you know, buy things, do things help people, it was just like, really impressed on me that way. And I'm really grateful for that. I think that's probably one of the best gifts that my dad gave me. And so money, like for me, like I actually think of money, like his love, like in the sense that it's a tool that you can extend love, you can extend impact, you can extend opportunity choices. It's really a tool and and so it's a different thing that I think I got that I'm really grateful for. And I think that's kind of been intertwined into my belief system, and how I think in them, therefore changes how we act when we feel and think certainly,

Marcy Predmore  16:19  
I actually love the, the be generous, just the just the natural pneus of being generous. As your dad gave you that example to me, that would probably be the biggest gift you could walk away from, from him is and you know, one of the things that we all talk about, and especially Tim and I in our practice in our private banking, concept practice is, money is just a tool. It doesn't have feelings, it doesn't have a motion. And a lot of times, it needs to just be utilized naturally. And I would have thoroughly enjoyed meeting your father because it sounds like be generous is really resonates with me. Well, yeah, that that's what an awesome story. It really is. And you know, just just with your mom growing up, and again, getting to the place that you are today, and I know some of your life, but what does a day in the life of Jen actually look like?

Jen Coffel  17:26  
I have four teenagers. So I have a lot of activity in my life, a lot of fun, a lot of busyness a lot of, you know, just trying to keep up with all the directions. They're all going one is 19 My oldest daughter's 19. My twins are boy girl, Luke and Lindsey. They're 18 they just started college this past week. And then my youngest is 16 I've decided to homeschool her this this semester to really just go out to have some more time freedom and travel. And I want to be I really feel that the education system needs to be reinvented and so I'm really being intentional with like things I want to teach her and life skills and principles and things like that. But so like this morning, you know I got up and I got out of bed. I have a little Yorkie little six pound seven pound Yorkie and I went on for a walk. And so we go for a walk and then come back and do some exercises. I have a class on like activators is what they're called. They're necessary like hardcore, super hard exercise, but they're really great toning exercises. And I start with that, and then just my morning routine of gratitude and affirmations and visualization. And then I drove my daughter to work my youngest because she's got her license yet. And so she had to work today. And then I put on zooms. I've got a mastermind this morning, coaching clients this afternoon. So I do a lot of zoom meetings. And then depending on the evening, I may be like on a Monday night we do family nights, so I'll have like 10 to 15 Teenagers here. We order takeout and play games or go to like top golf or escape rooms or do different things like just happening together. Yeah, and then, you know, whatever else I might be doing in the evenings, like it could be going on a date or hang out some friends or just relaxing at home. And then on Sundays I attend church, and my weekends are usually no work and like to just rest and play and have fun. So that's like the typical week for me. Then oftentimes I'm speaking you know, like, I'll be speaking in person or I'll be speaking now a lot consumed and I have a home studio in my basement. So I'll do speaking events and things like that.

Marcy Predmore  19:45  
Wow. I would say not just like that, that. That's pretty full. That's pretty full. And I had a feeling some of it would be again, I know that you're super. You share gratitude you have such a heart to really let people know that you're truly passionate about what you do you want to give that gift to people. So I know gratitude is a big deal for you. And just even with the mastermind that we have been involved with together, you just have so much to offer in again, you're calm, generous energy. So I really appreciate that about you. So that that daily, that daily life just helps people to understand, again, we talked a little bit about at the beginning, we all think we're ordinary, but truly, you all are in Jan, you are amazingly extraordinary. And thank you for sharing that. So let's talk just a tiny bit about engaging speakers. I know you've got an event coming up. So tell us just a little bit about the event. And if people want to go to master the stage event.com. That is that's the event is that correct? 

Jen Coffel  21:04  
Yes, I'm we're actually going to be doing that in November, the beginning November check, build as the key I one of the keynote speakers. And we actually are going to also have at least 12 meeting planners and top podcast hosts where many of the VIP attendees are going to be able to come in, like do a pitch and get booked to speak which is going to be a really neat piece of what we're offering. But I'm talking Jack Canfield, I have become friends. And he actually gave me some suggestions for this event this year, because this is an annual event that we do, and I loved what he shared with me. And so we actually built the conference experience around this theme that he shared, but he told me he had just a common he said, I really believe that every entrepreneur should be an author, a coach, a trainer and speaker. And I'm like, Oh man, that's great. Like I cuz I totally do all those things on my system. Really good point. So we did act one, act two, act three. And we had these master classes that have all been recorded. So anybody that gets a ticket gets a recording, but Jack did a masterclass on you know what it takes to become an author like a best selling author. He wrote Chicken Soup for the Soul. I mean, yeah, I think that that book has sold. Like think the Bible is the only book that's been sold more than that book, me because all the versions and stuff, so it's super successful. So he's obviously a great person to talk about that. So he did an amazing, like really good, so many nuggets of great information that he shared him just He's so good. And then we had James Dantley, he talked about coaching, and he's a phenomenal coach and just the power of like how to actually start a coaching business or add a coaching business and just all the components of like, what goes into that, and it was a it was a really great masterclass. Then we had Kathleen Seeley, who spoke on how to actually get into corporations and get paid, you know, to actually be working for a corporation. So if somebody has an desire, like how do you get into that, and really start to, like, you know, put in proposals and get work from corporations, and how do you price stuff. I mean, she gave so much great content that was amazing masterclass. So we have those three that have already been recorded, every buddy that gets a ticket will get the recordings of those, and then the actual event is a three day event. So beginning of November, and it's really just all around how to speak your way to our business. And we're going to be just teaching and equipping entrepreneurs with these eight pillars to profitable speaking like, what are the things that you actually really need to know and do as an entrepreneur to really be able to generate revenue, and it's not to become a professional speaker, and get paid to speak, it's really about how to use the power of speaking alone, a way that you can generate revenue for your business. And I can tell you, there's so much more money that you can make, by speaking for free everywhere, anywhere, and getting client work. I mean, you can make stunning, just I could tell you, like easily make 100 grand in less than an hour speaking for free, you know, if you know how to do that, and you know, the design. And so that's really what we're gonna be teaching at this conference. So I love what we do and engaging speakers. We actually have members be able to twice a month we have a virtual meeting where they can come and practice their center talk. And so we have two speaker coaches. And so members get to like actually do their signature talk and they get feedback. Yeah, and their content as well as their leverage their delivery of it. Yeah. So safe place for them to calm and like really get good solid feedback so that when they actually go out to do it for real, they'll get the best results. So I love that piece. We also help entrepreneurs with their 32nd marketing message like how do you share what you do so that people say, Wow, I want to talk with you more versus, you know, what can I do? And other times I have no idea what you're doing for way too creative and that 30 seconds entire 30 seconds to be concise and effective. So we teach them how to do that. And we're also expanding we're starting chapters all over the world is our goal. We can have at least 2000 chapters right now we have four chapters up and running and two people that are in training to open chapters, but our goal is to have them by the end of the year to have at least 40 that are up and running. So we're really excited about the expansion of like getting these chapters in people finding people that want to, like, get paid to basically generate leads for their core business, because they're gonna be able to speak in front of their chapter, and they're gonna get paid for that membership. So we've created a really generous compensation plan in supporting people that are interested in building a community like that,

Marcy Predmore  25:25  
that is awesome. And I know I got the privilege to go through your class last year. And, gosh, so many amazing people, too. So the other thing that intrigues me just a little bit, so share about the admired 100.

Jen Coffel  25:42  
Oh, yes. So this is a new mastermind actually came, the idea was birthed out of the mastermind that we're in together. And, you know, the mastermind weren't together, they're charging 10,000 a month. And I, I know that the women that my heart felt like I wanted to serve with the same kind of content that we're learning on our mastermind with them. Yeah, I don't know that they would be at a place that they would be yet able to invest that. So I want I saw, I talked to the person that runs our mastermind. So this is my, like, this, my desires, my thoughts, he's like, do it like in his full blessing, Take anything you want, and just bring it to everyone to bring it. So I love their abundant mindset and amazing people. So yeah, so I started that. And so it's admired one hundred.com. And, and it's a mastermind of women and the focuses for women that are in this place of doing and really want to transition to a place of being and they want to not effort, effort, effort, their way to more wealth, and more time, freedom and more choices and more anything they want in life, quite honestly. Right. And they really. And so the whole idea is to help them to get to that place. And so it's mindset, it's strategies, its connections, its resources, people, but it's really taking and walking with them on that journey to go from where they are to where they really want to be in a way that is going to get them to that place of living and admire life. And our tagline is, we rise by lifting others. And the idea is to get them to that place where what we talked about earlier about success, you know, being as generous as they want to be with their time and money and resources, right? What's the focus, and that's the goal. And we do some cool things like each month, we have a virtual experience. And I send a box of presents every month, which is super fun. So you don't know what you're getting. But it goes with the experience. And so we did like one, one of ours, I had a chef from France that taught us all how to do a charcuterie board. So the ingredients, everything in the mail and delta sugar curry board together, like we do just really cool things every month that are just different. And it does sound healing. We had somebody that I went through and like just taught us about sound healing, we actually experienced that. It's just been really, really fun to just shower them with presence each month, and then get some cool experience to build a community. Or we do a lot of mindset and wealth building strategies, things like that. So yes.

Marcy Predmore  28:11  
And really that is so important is the mindset. And I think that's where we have that connectivity is those like minds, we'd like to continue to grow us we'd like to continue to maybe even push ourselves just a little bit into some uncomfort. Just because we are ready for right now. I'm reading you squared and I read a chapter for 30 days each month each Yeah, each month, and 30 days. Yeah, 30 days. I read it 30 days at a time I'll get it out, right. But one of the notice that it talks about is the chapter I'm finishing right now that I just finished yesterday was being uncomfortable, you have to stay in motion and you have to get uncomfortable. So I love that because to speak from a stage it can be pretty uncomfortable. Like you said you never know the reaction that you might get from your audience. It could be asleep or an exit or whatever that is, and I know I have a few faux pas stories I could share too. when I very first started speaking you know how you can get tongue tied and accidentally a very wrong word comes out and you're just like, oh my gosh, I just can't believe I said that. So anyway to get uncomfortable is is really where people really should be trying to get to their next level. And And again, as we talk about that, as we talk about your admired 100 masterminding is super important. Master the stage event you know if people are if you the audience out there are really looking to maybe grow you maybe be uncomfortable reach out to Jim, reach out to her team and see if There's some place that you would fit into that niche. But Jen, as we talk a little bit more about masterminding and about just your growth, let's talk about mentors, and who has come into your life that's really propelled you to where you are today. And just share a little bit about mentors.

Jen Coffel  30:21  
Absolutely. So I would say, three major resources of what has really shaped my life. And what's interesting is how that that was received, the mentoring was received. So Bob Proctor has amazing programs. And he was my first personal development, like program experience. And so I did winner's image, the goal achiever, you were born rich, so universal laws, and I have like the mintage copies that I got, like 15 years ago, have all these, you know, copies. And now he is thinking into results and lead the field. And so he has had a huge even though I've never like personally coached with them and mentored him, like he's mentored me through all of the content that he's delivered and put together. So sure, he has been a huge influence in the way that I think and how I approach life and yeah, deal with everything. Yeah. And then the second one is Go Giver by Bob Berg. Yeah, that book really helps me to like foundationally, from a principle standpoint, build my business with a spirit of giving. And it really resonated with how I was brought up, and it just made a lot of sense to me. And so that's been something that has absolutely, like foundationally driven and mentored me, and you know, in terms of how I go about building my businesses, yeah. And then the, the third one is that has made me I could go on and on but the the top right, next one is Jack Canfield, like, success principles. If I showed you my book, like the front cover, the back book covers off, it's highlighted, like it's been, it's the yellow, the pages are yellow, I had to go buy another book. And that second book is looking like it's starting to fall apart. I have those principles that are in that book, I've been saying that book for over 10 years, and I read it every single year, I teach people how to go through it. There's just layers and layers and layers of principles in that, you know, application into your life. And I just cannot recommend that has made a huge impact. And then you mentioned Sandra Yancey, she has an organization called the women that's very, very successful. And it's, it's, she's been, she had, I had spent some time for like eight months mentoring with her about that for engaging speakers. So I really desire to create the same model is always looking at people like what I learned from Jack like success leaves clues. And, you know, Tony Robbins says the same thing. So where do you go and find people that are doing what you're doing and learn from them. And then not one other one that's not talked about very often, that has really, I think made a huge impact is Nick Vujicic. He has no arms or legs. And he is somebody that has really surrendered his life. And he was suicidal at age eight, because he was born with no arms or legs. Yeah. And he just kind of anticipated at that young age, like what his future would be like, and didn't necessarily, you know, think that was gonna be me, he had a roll around everywhere and couldn't get himself dressed, or do anything really for himself. Wow, never saw himself as you know, being able to be married or have a job or any of that stuff at that young age. And he was surrounded by like parents that really spoke words of life and belief into him. And something changed. And he borrowed the belief of his mom and dad, that there was a reason that it was this way. And he ended up being able to completely step into and surrender, like, and believe that there was a purpose in his life. And so now he has the he's like the top paid Christian speaker in the world right now. Yeah. And he goes around and like teaches teens, you know, about suicide prevention, and like, you know, just gives them inspiration. And it points them to relationship with God. And yeah, there is it's just amazing to watch him. So whenever I have struggled with belief, I will look at his life. And I'll be reminded, like, he's really mentored me in terms of like my spirit, and how I look at things with gratitude and with a purpose and, like, surrendering to God and like he has a brand called Life Without Limits. And so I often pray, you know, God, don't let me limit myself like, I want to only be limited to what you limit me in and, like, put all these self limiting things on me because of like, conditioning or wrong beliefs or all of that. So that's my prayer, oftentimes. So those are, say the top mentors, the top five, I gave me five, but there's been tons more, obviously, but those are the top five that come to my mind that have shaped my life, I think the most

Marcy Predmore  34:56  
and that is it's just so awesome. And I don't think it matters if you You have one, five or 50. So many of us that that get involved Bob, of course, is at the top of my list also. But you know, one of the things and I've shared this once before, but I think I can share with just your sentiment is the book of Ruth, in the Bible is truly a mentor to me, just, you know, just that story of the women in the book of Ruth. So that is super awesome. I just really appreciate that. And I have heard of Nick and I've heard of his organization, so I can't imagine. But I know I also climbed Mount Kilimanjaro and there was a gentleman and I believe it's Kyle Maynard, and he climbed Mount Kilimanjaro with no hands or feet. And I know how hard it was having to eat. And so again, just to have a mentor or an example like that is pretty incredible. Pretty extraordinary.

Jen Coffel  35:58  
Yes. Yeah. That's what he's done like, he has normalized I really encourage anybody to go and like watch YouTubes on him. He's married to most beautiful woman. They have two healthy boys. Oh, he skydives he swims, he plays golf, he dresses. I mean, just like with no arms or legs, like kind of what you're saying about the guy that climbed Mount Kilimanjaro with no, I mean, it's like the power of the possibility of the human, like what you can actually do. 

Marcy Predmore  36:25  
But you can think yourself. Yes. That's amazing that and yes, I'm going to look him up again. But I know I've seen him or I've seen maybe even he's

Jen Coffel  36:37  
funny, he's so joyful. Like, I highly recommend watching some of this content. So good.

Marcy Predmore  36:43  
Definitely will do that. Well, you know, as we come to a close, I just, again, I'm just so privileged to know you, Jen, and just really to feel your presence in in my life and in our lives. I know, Tim and I really enjoy just that connectivity that we have together. But as we come to a close, just to help people make their next step or their leap of faith or their quantum leap. Can you just give a tip of the week, something that would just encourage?

Jen Coffel  37:16  
Absolutely. So the thing that has, you know, I went through a divorce last year or 27 years, it's got 14 years, a lot of transition. Yeah. And it was a very healthy thing for me, but I feel like something that has been really like going through my life and my heart and mind. This past year, I'd love to share. And that is I'm a doer. So I have even just giving words to that right now I recognize the power of this belief that I hold about being a doer in this transition, as I've been choosing to live a more conscious life. Yeah. And understand levels of consciousness is coming to a different place of, of being a beer. Like we're human beings, not human doings. We do things but we're human beings first. Yes. And so this has been realigning a lot of how I've been thinking and approaching life. And so I, I My encouragement and my tip would be take an inventory of your current life and all the different areas of your life like how you physically look, your appearance, your wage, your health, your relationships, your business success, your income. Yeah. And look at what is your real self image, not what you look at in the mirror that reflects back but like how you think of yourself, your image that you hold of yourself, because this is the being of you. Yes. So I was talking about with my dad, like, it wasn't that he did generous things. He was generous. He would say I am generous. And then therefore I do generous things. Yes. There's a history of a guy who, you know, he was, he ran all the time. Like no matter if it was storming out raining, or whatever it is, like be midnight, gets a hotel, he gets up at six in the morning, he runs. And somebody asked him like, how do you have such discipline? Like, how could you do that? And no matter what you run is like, you just looked at kind of baffled. It's like, I'm a runner. So I run. That's what I do. Yeah. And so like, when you think about it, like what are you saying that I am? You know I am stressed? I am overscheduled I am overweight? I am like what are you saying that I am because whatever those being things are that you see, this isn't now this is very subconscious, right? And 95% of our whatever we're having in our life is is really because our subconscious is creating all of that, but we can be conscious of it. And so the tip is to like really look at consciously shed light on what's going up in your subconscious, like what have you made agreements with in terms of what you're being? Yes. And recognize that if you are I am disorganized, well then you're creating things that are going to create More disorganization. If I am stressed, well, then you're going to create things that are as much as I am a doer. Well, I'm going to create a lot of doing things. Right. Right. So we can look at that all the things and I think that's the first step that I think sometimes isn't talked about, like we get everyone, you know, from a personal wellness standpoint, focus on a goal and a vision. Yeah. And like, we have to do this, do this, do this do this was to get there. But the truth is, we have to actually shift the psycho cybernetics, that cybernetic mechanism that's inside of us that setpoint Yes. Because the setpoint is the being of us, like, what do we see ourselves as being? What does that image that we hold of ourselves, because whatever that is, if we get past that setpoint, and we don't change how we see ourselves and the being of ourselves, then we're going to self sabotage, we're gonna just what are you doing up here? Get back to where your, your setpoint is, and you'll go right back. That's why like, we look at people that are losing weight, like Oprah is a great example of that till like that images changed internally, right? How you see yourself, you can lose weight, and up and down, up and down, up and down, up and down your whole life. Yeah, still the image gets changed. Yes. If you see yourself and your images, I'm six figure earner. I'm a multiple six figure, I'm a five figure and I'm a 10. Pick whatever the image that you're holding yourself is? Yep. You're gonna create that? Yes. And so this awareness that I've had around the B, yeah. And like, how do you change your setpoint? Because, like, you know, a plane has autopilot. Like, it's a setpoint. No matter? Yeah. If it sets a point, I'm going to go from here to Australia. Yeah. The co pilot, you know, it'd be the pilots don't even need it on autopilot. Right? No matter if it goes through turbulence, storms, anything, it's gonna keep going back to whatever is needed. Destination set. Destination net. Yes. And I think that we need to like what I've been recognizing, and the tip would be like, what is it that set inside of me that image is what set in I want to read? Set an image? Yeah. So how do I really reset the image? And at first, I need to be awareness, right? Look at what is really the image I'm holding this, like, what have I made agreements with and choose to release those, right? And then step into a new image expand? Like, who do I want it? Is comes from like, Who do I want to be? The Who and the being? Not the doing? Yeah. And for me, that was a major revelation. Yeah. And so it's kind of coming at all the content that I've been studying for all these years, really a different place? Yeah. I've gotten a lot of success from the doing doing doing. But I think that the quantum leap that you're asking about a tip from comes from making a decision to stop that track, and actually get onto a new track of being right. And what does that all include? And like looking at our condition, there's a story of a woman who, her family, you know, she always made ham, and she'd always, you know, for Thanksgiving, she always McCammon she cut off part of the ham, throw it away. Yeah. And her daughter was like, Why do you do that? Why do you want it? You know, like, because other shooting recognize other families doesn't do that. She's like, well, that's how you do it. So we this is how you make ham. That's just like, imprinted in her mind. This is how it's done. Yes. And then her mom was listening this conversation and that, that she grew up watching make him this way. And her daughter was reflecting this is why and the granddaughter is like, why are you doing it? And the mom that kind of set the that in place for the daughter that was making it like this all these years. And the granddaughters questioning it was saying, Well, honey, I'm sorry. But the reason I cut off that piece was because we only had one size pan in the hand didn't fit in the pan, so I had to cut it off and throw it away. And like that awareness. I think that's what I was trying to share with you. I'll you know, in their question, Mark. Marcy was, yes. Sometimes we just are like being and holding an image and believing a truth that's like, just we were taught that we made it every month we received it, we accepted it, we didn't question it. And so this is an opportunity to step in and question, right? What am I really believing? Right? And, you know, who do I really want to be? And then how do I change the setpoint? So I don't keep going back to that. Yeah, you know, autopilot things, you know, and sabotage. Or maybe if you've noticed, people like drop down below their comfort zone, you talked about getting outside your comfort zone. If you've been dropped below your comfort zone, then you like work, work, work, work to get back to what you're comfortable with, right? It's all about living in the comfort zone. It's like our human need to live in this consistency. Like we have this human need to like be very consistent. Yes, in the setpoint thing, but the idea is we really need to switch and be a different set point. Right? And like understand, that's the goal, then everything else can kind of come from that. So that's that's the thing I would say is, is get some awareness like around that and like set a new that point, yeah, and then be somebody different like in your mind, your heart, your spirit with agreement that and believe you can and you will.

Marcy Predmore  45:07  
Hi, I absolutely love it. And of course my word for the year is aware. And I love that word being aware. And as Bob teaches you and I, when you talk about the setpoint, if you've made $100,000 a year, and you begin to make a little bit more, a little bit less, if you don't change your meaning, you're thinking, you'll come right back to where you were 100%. And it truly was life changing for me. So I love the being being aware. Yeah, that's, that's a fabulous Tip of the Week. And, and again, Jen, I can't thank you enough. And, and really the audience, if you guys would reach out to Jen, her team, if you just want to take your next step of being, then become aware today, and make that step. And really find your extraordinary because it's truly there in the spotlight and really needs to be shown. So I hope everybody has an amazing, extraordinary week. And Jen, thank you so much for being a part of ordinary women in extraordinary wealth.

Jen Coffel  46:20  
My pleasure. And if anyone would like to connect with me again, just go to JenC360.com and can connect with me all different ways in there. So thank you for this time, Marcy, really appreciate it.

Marcy Predmore  46:30  
You bet. And that'll also be in the show notes. Awesome. Thank you.

Janay Harris  46:38  
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